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12 August 2007 @ 09:34 pm
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It's a funny time on LiveJournal right now. I've been watching fandom explode/implode over the recent TOS issues, and haven't felt like speaking up. While I understand why it's shaken a lot of people, I've found the frenzy at times... well, embarrassing is probably the best way to put it. I guess one of the reasons I don't have much to say is because I'm not particularly surprised by the behaviour from LJ/6A.

While I've read many well measured responses to the whole thing, the three posts on the matter that I have most enjoy are as follows:
- rivkat pointed out the hypocrisy in mainstream American culture (with reference to Smallville specifically)
- mskatej talked sense as usual.
- cesperanza called people on their bullying tactics.

Am I going to migrate elsewhere? Not if I can help it. However, I have backed up the contents of my LJ at insanejournal. I'm going to try cross-posting there for a while. I have a greatestjournal too but I don't use it. It's just for emergencies. :) I can't honestly imagine keeping up with multiple f'lists so I really hope we settle down somewhere--preferably here--sooner rather than later.

For me, the most important thing is to keep on enjoying what we do and the relationships we've built here. I've found myself disinclined to post recently because everyone is in such high angst, but if we stop posting fun fannish stuff, we'll only be defined by the screaming, the in-fighting, the bullying and the hysteria. That's not what I'm here for. So this is my little pledge to start posting more regularly again.

I had THE best shopping experience the other day! *beams* I work in a very trendy area of Melbourne and usually I know better than to walk into any of the boutiques on my lunchbreak. But one of them had a sign in the window saying there was a sale on Metallicus and I needed some new work tops so I thought I'd pop in. An hour later I came out with a suit, a new dress and a new top and it goes down as the best shopping experience ever. The shop was really quiet and the sales assistant was chatty without being too pushy. When I tried something on, she dug out another couple of options for me, which is when I realised that she was really really good at her job. She had a fantastic eye for what would suit me and she didn't make me feel enormous, which is seriously amazing.

By and large I hate clothes shopping, especially under the scrutiny of skinny sales assistants who smile fake sympathy at you when some part of you fails to fit in their clothing. And being rather short, with skinny limbs, but generous tummy, shoulders and bust means a lot of cuts don't suit me. I know I don't know a lot about fashion, but I'm also rather particular and fussy about my clothes and I need them to have a certain character.

This sales assistant was SO GOOD. She actually acknowledged my figure without making me feel like a freak, and said things like 'with your skin tone', 'with your bust', 'with your cute retro look'... and found clothes that worked for me. This is SO RARE! I could have bought so much more from her. In particular there was a shirt that was absolutely divinely beautiful but I couldn't afford it. However, I did get a very cute little suit which I'm pleased with because it has enough character that I will enjoy wearing it despite the formality (I usually hate formal clothes). And the truly amazing thing? She made me try on a size 8 dress. 8!! (I'm usually a 12-14 in Aus sizes.) And I am not joking, but I doubt you will believe me when I say that I came bouncing out of the changing room to show her how cute it looked on me. It is now my favourite dress EVER. It fit me perfectly (if not the way it was perhaps originally intended on skinny-model-girl) and is totally adorable. It can be dressed up or down and I LOVE IT! *beams*

I hope she's on a really good commission, because DAMN she deserves it.

Note: I will probably do a little clean-up of my friendslist in the next couple of days. I'll only defriend where interests have diverged or we don't interact, and if you want back on, as always, pipe up.
 
 
Current Location: sofa of comfiness
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Becky: [other] kitten! inflowers! omgsocute!sadface on August 12th, 2007 12:39 pm (UTC)
\o/

I'm glad your shopping experience was good, you should post pictures of your dress!

I, too, am trying to be posty again. It's not going especially well.

*HUGS* I hope you've been feeling better recently, I was going to email you but didn't want to unintentionally bother you.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Dead Like Mebop_radar on August 13th, 2007 01:54 am (UTC)
Hee. You never ever bother me, hon! I have been feeling rather quiet and lonesome, actually. It's silly--I should just post and be chatty and get over it. ;)

I'm a bit freaked out that everyone wants to see the dress. Hee! I may have over-hyped it. ;)
blowjobs for jesus: nonfandom 30's womankristiinthedark on August 12th, 2007 01:35 pm (UTC)
Aw, what a happy experience! I love it when that kind of thing happens. *twirls you*

And I'm not going anywhere either, unless they drag me away. I like it here. :)

K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Legsbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:47 am (UTC)
Oh, stylish new icon! *admires*
slinkling: Slinkling (slinky dress)slinkling on August 12th, 2007 02:17 pm (UTC)
Hooray for happy shopping! (Did you tell the salesperson how great she was? I'm sure it would have made her day.)

Do we get to see pictures of your awesome new dress?
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Lois smirkbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:48 am (UTC)
I did! :) We were on first-name terms by the time I left and she told me the days she works so I can go back. \o/

I'm a bit freaked by these requests to see pictures, but I'll work on it. ;)
Cris: Bones - B & Aduskwillow on August 12th, 2007 02:26 pm (UTC)
That sounds like an awesome shopping experience!!
I'd also like to see the dress. :)

I hate shopping, and like you mentioned - usually not very helpful people work there.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Audrey Tautoubop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:51 am (UTC)
Yeah, it's usually a pretty depressing experience and this season everything seems to make me look pregnant. *g* But not these new clothes... at least I don't think so!
latteaddict: Gleelatteaddict on August 12th, 2007 02:39 pm (UTC)
I'll never give up LJ. I'd have to be physically dragged away. Every friend I've made in fandom is here, all the cool stuff, the cool links, the interesting people. The thought of sitting in isolation with an unsued account sounds very lonely. Unless the entire BSG fandom picks up and moves elsewhere, I'm here for the duration :)

And *yay* for happy shopping! Being busty makes so many styles unwearable unless you want to look like a hooker or like you're wearing a sack - it's very unfair! So I'm very pleased that you got something stylish. Lucky you!
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: FNL Tyra lolzbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:53 am (UTC)
Yeah, the idea of migrating fully fills me with horror. :D I've been resisting the entire idea for some time. I just want to be with my friends, and thankfully BSG fandom doesn't seem to be very flapped by the recent events.

Being busty makes so many styles unwearable unless you want to look like a hooker or like you're wearing a sack
YES. Apparently the solution is to wear a teenie dress the 'wrong' way instead. Who knew!? I actually don't look pregnant in this--it's a miracle! (At my old work, there was actually a pregnancy rumour about me once--really not what one wants when one is SO NOT PREGNANT.)
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Enderenderwiggin24 on August 12th, 2007 02:43 pm (UTC)
yay for superb shopping experiences!!
she deserves a huge commission for making you looking fabulous :D

now, you totally make me jealous! i wanna see you in that dress :D
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Lex golden fieldbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:54 am (UTC)
Hee! I'm a bit freaked by all these requests for photos, but I will do what I can. Then you can all say 'all that fuss for that?!' :D
Fleegull: Carrie&Shoefleegull on August 12th, 2007 02:46 pm (UTC)
Hooray for happy shopping experiences!
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: DW Madame Pompadourbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:55 am (UTC)
It made me so happy! I learnt quite a few good tips about what works well for me too.
Ememrinalexander on August 12th, 2007 03:02 pm (UTC)
I agree with you - I'm not going anywhere. I have accounts all over the place, but I can't even remember how to access them, and even if that weren't the case, and I weren't terribly lazy, I would not want to spend all my time bouncing around five or six different blogging sites trying to keep up with people. LJ has problems, but it is still the best game in town.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Bop_radar TWbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 02:58 am (UTC)
I know. The idea of bouncing around all over the place--or even between two places--is terribly off-putting. And I'm not someone that resists change if it's genuinely change for the better but things seem very tentative and uncertain, especially with people divided over which alternative location is best.
Maren: BSG: Apollomarenfic on August 12th, 2007 03:54 pm (UTC)
Great links- it's refreshing to see people posting thoughts more in line with my own. I'm not seeing that much on my own flist. I haven't posted my own manifesto because the last thing we need is yet another write-up of this situation. Let's just say I think it's time for people who are so angry that they want to leave to, you know, go ahead and make the move. I'll keep up with my friends on other journals but will probably just stick around here myself.

One benefit is that I'm feeling fannish and writing in three fandoms right now when I haven't in months, so yay?
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Leebop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:00 am (UTC)
*nods* I agree. It's reached saturation point and the people that really feel they need to move should do so. Like you, I'll stay here but do want to keep in touch with my friends--that's my priority.

Three fandoms?! Whee! That's great! *g* (Which three?)
sarmoti: HSM - Sharpay & Ryansarmoti on August 12th, 2007 04:19 pm (UTC)
Mmm, shopping.

Thanks for the links about the latest kerfluffle. I've been watching it mostly from afar and am sort of amused, but really just want it to end!
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: DW Sally Sparrowbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:00 am (UTC)
Yeah, I'm over it. *g*
random_seriousrandom_serious on August 12th, 2007 04:20 pm (UTC)
Wow, sounds like you had a good trip shopping. (Personally, sales assistants freak me out with their *selling*, and I prefer to be left alone with my shopping endavors)
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Heroes Clairebop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:01 am (UTC)
Sales assistants usually freak me out too. Normally my favourite stores are ones where you are left in peace to try on things at your own pace. However this sales assistant had an extremely friendly/relaxed/non-pushy manner and I felt completely comfortable: definitely a unique experience!
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obursts: Stock: 009obursts on August 12th, 2007 04:26 pm (UTC)
Thirding... or fourthing the request to see pictures of your new dress! :)
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: DW Martha Jonesbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:02 am (UTC)
Hee! Um, thanks. *blush* I'll work on my camera-phobia. ;)
Becky: Bohemiancinderella81 on August 12th, 2007 04:48 pm (UTC)
Yay for cute clothes tha tmake you look good!!!

As for LJ ... I have an IJ and a GJ and honestly? I hope O don't have to move to either, but if it happens then so be it ...
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Clark basketballbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:03 am (UTC)
Thanks! And yeah, I hope I don't have to move either, but they're there if it does happen.
CapnZebbie: stalkerkittycapnzebbie on August 12th, 2007 05:00 pm (UTC)
I got a permanent account just before this latest round of...whatever it is. So here I am and here I'll stay.

Sounds like an awesome shopping experience! :)
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Ericabop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:10 am (UTC)
Oh, yeah, I have a permanent account too! Hee! I totally forgot. *g* But even if I didn't, I'd still want to stay.
serenography: KKsmileserenography on August 12th, 2007 05:16 pm (UTC)
*tacklehug* I'm so happy for you and your fabulous shopping venture. Salesclerks like that are GOLDEN, and far too rare. Be sure to throw hints out to your boy about that top you couldn't afford. There's always birthdays and other things he might need ideas for. ;)

I supposed I'll do the IJ thing as a backup, but I don't plan on going anywhere. The whole censorship kerfuffle left me with a lot of questions, but I can't work myself into as much outrage as others seem to be experiencing.

For me, the most important thing is to keep on enjoying what we do and the relationships we've built here. I've found myself disinclined to post recently because everyone is in such high angst, but if we stop posting fun fannish stuff, we'll only be defined by the screaming, the in-fighting, the bullying and the hysteria. That's not what I'm here for.

I bow to your wisdom (once again).
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Faithbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:11 am (UTC)
Oh, yes, you are quite right! They are golden. And birthdays... hm... *tries to imagine boy purchasing clothes and fails* It's worth a try I guess!
Charlotte; Possy Magnet.: OT - shop till you dropelsmoka on August 12th, 2007 05:37 pm (UTC)
Such good sales assistants are so rare. I am looking for a nice dress but I never find one I really like. It totally needs at least little sleeves because I hate going sleeveless. :(

BUT YAY FOR YOU! Finding clothes you are totally happy with is awesomesauce! :D
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Ericabop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:15 am (UTC)
Mine has little sleeves! I agree: it's no fun going sleeveless, though I do have to break that rule in summer by sheer necessity.
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canadiangirl_86 on August 12th, 2007 06:30 pm (UTC)
Yay for awesome shopping experiences! You wouldn't consider doing a picspam-modelling thing for us, would you? *G*

And I know what you mean about sales people. I went into an Abercrombie and Fitch for the first time a few months back and the entire atmosphere in there was completely intimidating. It was packed with, like, models for employees and smelled like cologne. Generally it's not that hardcore when I go shopping but I tend to like avoiding trying stuff on because I just feel uncomfortable.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Heroes Clairebop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:20 am (UTC)
Hee! I'm amazed how many people want to see a photo of me in the dress. *suspicious* Are you all really in need of pointing and laughing that badly?!

Yeah, most of the shops round here hire models or at least skinny women to make the clothes look good. And I understand why they do so (to make the clothes look good), but it can be very intimidating. Some places are better than others and I realise now a big part of where I shop is how comfortable I feel with the staff.
Nora Norwichnorwich36 on August 12th, 2007 07:29 pm (UTC)
Wow, there are salespeople in the world who are helpful and know their job?

*Boggles*

I'm glad you had such a good experience! And yay for pretty clothes.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Buffy Willow friends hugbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:20 am (UTC)
It's amazing, isn't it?! I walked out of the shop in shock. I also showed everyone at work my new clothes and three people from my department rushed straight down there on my recommendation and all came back with something. *g*
Clari Clyde: Seraphim: Happy fansclari_clyde on August 12th, 2007 07:57 pm (UTC)
I was thinking about posting something about the strikethrough controversy and someone on my f-list keeps egging me to post what I have drafted but, it feels like it’ll do no good with people so paranoid from the confusion and change. Right now, I’m more into sitting back and letting this all sort itself out before offering my opinions on the matter.

And I’m not leaving LJ if I can help it. Fandom will never be the same again now that it’s not under the radar as it used to be and every place that fandom settles into will have the same problems as LJ sooner or later. Also, I think that, despite 6A’s blunders, a lot of these changes will eventually be for the better. Besides, I like it here. I actually really like Vox also but oh well.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Clois runbop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:23 am (UTC)
I know what you mean. I've been sitting back too and I'm not sure why I even decided to mention it today, but I think I've just been sad at the way my f'list seems dominated by angst about it recently and I wanted to just get back to normal in a way. It sounds like your thoughts on the matter are very similar to mine. In a way, I think we need to just keep going and not let it get us too angry or jaded.
Caryle: apollo - suit of hotnesscarylerg on August 13th, 2007 01:08 am (UTC)
Yay for super fun clothes shopping! Have you ever noticed there are days that the stars align for perfect clothes fitting? Unfortunately, those always seem to be days when I have no money. *pouts* :)

I can't imagine moving to another journal system. I like my LJ, and if BSG fandom left, I'd feel very sad.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Kara glowybop_radar on August 13th, 2007 03:25 am (UTC)
Those perfect clothes shopping days happen only about once a year for me, so I tend to buy up big when they do. ;) I'm amused by your icon because I have my own 'suit of hotness' (all things being relative, of course!) now. :)

I don't think BSG fandom will move--it's been noticeably less ruffled than Smallville fandom, at least judging by my f'list. Either that or we're just lazier. ;-p
jude_judith82: Lindsey and Nick {Freaks and Geeks}jude_judith82 on August 13th, 2007 04:49 am (UTC)
You know this whole thing I've been kind of on the sidelines. I'm not even sure what's going on. I'm over it already seriously. On another note. Yay for shopping! It's wonderful when you find something you love.
K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!: Aishwarya Raibop_radar on August 13th, 2007 06:19 am (UTC)
Meh. *waves hands* Who can follow it all?

Yay shopping!
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K, Bop or Boppy--take your pick!bop_radar on August 15th, 2007 05:45 am (UTC)
No problem! Yeah, it's quite a bit to catch up on, isn't it?
(Anonymous) on August 15th, 2007 05:56 am (UTC)
Hey there, good to hear from you and good that you have been having fun shopping. I have just had a shopping squee experience my self with metalicus in Melbourne! Your post was very serendipitous for me.

I love metalicus stuff personally - firstly and mostly because I hate ironing, it scrunches up to nothing and packs like a dream; secondly, because I fluctuate anywhere between an Aussie 10 - 12 - 14 depending upon what's going on in my life (I have a big tendancy to comfort eat) I find this brand sometimes incredibly forgiving;and thirdly, I love to layer up.

I just had a weekend in Melbourne and got a few bits from metalicus in - a long sleeved dress in black (cos I had too)which is made of wool and has all of this cute smocking across the chest, and a cute sleeveless version in some kind of melon color and a long sleeved jacket to match - all very generous to my tummy at the moment which at the moment needs all the help it can get. I was very, very happy. The staff in the store were both great despite having had a really rude person (she worked on neighbors or something and seemed to have high expectations about discounts and stuff)in at the same time as me.

Can I ask have you been following the story "Reparation" It's has been a really well written and angsty story to read so far - but really challenging from a lee characterisation point of view. I just caught up on the last 3 chapters today... still reeling. Still thinking.

I can't wait for season 4.

p.s. did you happen to see ratatouille? I loved it. Inspired me to cook, and eat....and smile.

smact46smact46 on August 15th, 2007 06:00 am (UTC)
oops!!
Oh..Ok. *is very embarrassed*

I guess I forgot to log in, so I just thought I better log in now and make another comment to let you know that that was really me who made all the squeeing about metalicus and shopping and stuff.
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Anei-Kishi : Ippuukawatta: Whimsically Freehiruki_demon on April 7th, 2010 07:15 pm (UTC)
Hiya! We havent formally met yet but you've been mentioned several times on freece's journal and I decided to friend you. More than likely it'd be best to put me on the "Book Filter" since I am a writer and dont share any of your fandoms really. XD Good to meet you and as to LJ, be it as the winds will it. We'll recover and adapt as always. ^^